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Post by lovelymoon on Feb 17, 2017 19:41:46 GMT
Hi, there. I decided to write here because I need your help. I’m 37 years old, and I suffer from early menopause. Actually, I started to have problems with my periods 5 years ago. Everything started with short delays, and 10 months ago was the last time I had my periods. I’ve passed all possible tests, and my gyny diagnosed me with early menopause. Two years ago, I married a very nice man. We love each other greatly, and we want to become parents as soon as possible. As I’m not able to produce oocytes any more, the doctor advises us to try egg donation. We decided to try our luck with egg donation. We got interested in two clinics that are located overseas. Both clinics seem to be rather reputable ones and have loads of favorable feedbacks. When we visited these clinics, we found some things that made us hesitate. When we came to a foreign country, we were met at the airport by the driver. The clinic’s representatives supplied us with the apartment and meals, and it was really nice. Nevertheless, when we came to the clinic, we were unpleasantly surprised by the way we were treated there. Firstly, the clinic was located in a private villa overcrowded with visitors. There wasn’t even a vacant place to stand. Each couple required nearly half an hour to consult a doctor. We had to wait nearly two hours before the doctor was ready to meet us. Overall, we liked this fertility specialist, but during our talk her phone rang several times, and she answered to both calls. We visited another clinic. The things were quite different there. We were met by a courteous administrator, and the doctor was extremely soothing… However, the clinic was empty. Now we have to decide which clinic to choose… Frankly speaking, I liked the second one, but it was sooo empty. The first one can’t organize their work properly, but they do have patients…
P.S. I know that we’d better do ED in the UK. However, there are some things that make us go overseas. It’s a little bit risky, but we have to do this. Maybe, there is someone here with the same problems. I would gladly listen to your stories… I really need your help!!!
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Post by voodoolady on Feb 21, 2017 15:09:10 GMT
Hi! Really sorry for you having all those fertility problems. The first clinic doesn’t seem to be a favorable one. They shouldn’t have made you wait so much time in the queue. I don’t think it’s a good sign. The second clinic seems to be ok. However, if I were in your shoes, I would pay more attention the the success rates of both clinics… I think it’s a key moment to take into consideration.
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Post by lovelymoon on Feb 28, 2017 14:09:56 GMT
The thing is the clinic seems to be a reputable one. We’ve found loads of feedbacks about them on various fertility sites. Their former clients praise the fertility specialists who work there. We were also in the clinic, and it was overcrowded… Frankly speaking, we’re hesitating what to do further. We don’t know whether to deal with them or not… They seem to offer a nice package of a reasonable price. However, those long queues make us really annoyed!!!
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Post by ammanma on Mar 6, 2017 12:05:00 GMT
hey sweetie. I'm sorry for your early problem, it's so unfair, you are too young for this...this world is crazy! But i'm so glad to hear that you met a guy you love and your desire to have a baby is quite natural. Regarding your clinic's choice, I don't think it's very sensible to judge a clinic by crowds there. We are all people and sometimes we need more time to make some actions, sometimes we need to wait and we all make mistakes. If there are crowds then that place is very popular and there must be a reason for that. I think it's a good sign. and that doctor who answered a phone...imagine you have an urgent problem and you need an advice, but you can't get it just because your doctor discuss something with other customers. If there are great specialists you don't need to hesitate IMO. If you are so afraid of those long lines then you should choose the second clinic. at least it seems like a better place for you.
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Post by voodoolady on Mar 9, 2017 18:48:57 GMT
I would also check the way they are looking for the egg donors fro their ED IVF programs. I think it’s vital to use oocytes of the young and healthy woman. The clinic must be a selective one. They should check every single detail about the egg donor. Especially, they should check the egg donor’s heredity. I think it’s vital to do this!!! What do you think about it?
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Post by lovelymoon on Mar 16, 2017 11:59:58 GMT
The clinic seems to be a selective one. According to the contract we have to sign up with them, they offer us oocytes of 18-25 year old lady. Before accepting a woman who would like to share her oocytes, the clinic’s specialist will test her health condition in different ways. They will also investigate her family tree to see whether her parents, grandparents, sibling, aunts and uncles are free from any hereditary diseases. An egg donor must also be a mum of at least one healthy child. If the woman matches all these criteria, she’s accepted as an egg donor. For me, these criteria sound very reasonable.
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Post by lilly on Mar 19, 2017 21:29:42 GMT
Hi ladies!
Just had a quick look at what you all wrote here ..and I must admit that the second place seems more trustworthy for me. Of course I can't tell you anything for sure or recommend one of those clinics as I myself haven't been to any of them .. But as I can see all the necessary requirements they do meet there.. so far as they take care of the quality of the service and the health of your future baby.. Anyway, it's up to you to decide.. Think it over one more time
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Post by voodoolady on Mar 28, 2017 10:55:46 GMT
Sounds not bad, hun! It’s great that they offer oocytes of young ladies. They are considered to be the most effective for the DE IVF. However, how are they actually going to select an egg donor particularly for your ED program? Will you be able to see the ED photos?
P.S. As far as I know, some clinics supply their clients only with the donor’s profile. Others give them an opportunity to glimpse at the donor’s photo when she was a young child. What about the clinic you’ve got interested in?
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Post by christ on Apr 4, 2017 8:34:37 GMT
lovelymoonIt's so sad that you faced with menopause so early in your 30s..I didn't know it's even possible. In your case egg donation is the only option as far as I understand. As I woman who underwent 7 cycles of IVF I can tell you that there are few main factors which are to be taken into account: success rate, price and the way a clinic provides its clients with comfort. BUT you must not make decisions based on number of couples inside the building. You need to weigh all pros and cons before you are sure you want to proceed. If the clinic provides you with a possibility to choose an egg donor from a huge database it's a great plus. bear it in mind. Good luck to you!
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Post by antonia on Apr 4, 2017 12:03:18 GMT
Oh, poor girl. I feel sorry for you. I know just few women who are struggling with early menopause and I really sympathize with them. The one of these woman is my friend and she used to undergo de ivf in one european clinic. As far as I understood, you are looking for a reproductive clinic. christ was right, first of all, you have to define what you want to see in your clinic. The reputation, price, the attitude to the clients. You have to feel comfy with them, as I felt with my clinic. I used the reproductive medicine, not the egg donation but a surrogacy, I can't carry a baby. we used surrogacy with my own eggs. And now I'm a mother of a 1-week old girl. best wishes and good luck for you |
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Post by lovelymoon on Apr 14, 2017 8:16:23 GMT
Before visiting the clinic for the first time, we sent them a short description of the woman who would suit us as an egg donor. We specified the ladies weight, height, eyes and hair color. Our program coordinator told us that the clinic has a large database of egg donors. They will use a special software to find an appropriate egg donor for us. If we sign up a contract with them, we’ll be able to see the donor’s 3D photo. This the way they’re going to find an egg donor for us. What do you think about it?
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Post by voodoolady on Apr 26, 2017 20:32:06 GMT
I think it’s great that you’ll be able to see the 3D photo of the woman who’s going to share her eggs with you. Frankly speaking, not all fertility clinics are ready to provide such a service. However, will they charge any additional fees for such an opportunity. As far as I know, some fertility clinics do this. They may offer you to book some optional services or ask to do additional health tests… I have a close friend who cycled in a Spanish fertility clinic. They quite liked the prices of the clinic, but the RE who was in charge of their program started to ask them to do additional tests. Due to these tests, they had to pay much more than they were going to pay at the beginning of their ED program.
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Post by lilly on Apr 28, 2017 12:07:58 GMT
Wow, that's wonderful news I think. I agree that's great having an opportunity to chose the donors. And I believe that is the right thing to do. I've watched some videos presented by different fertility clinics, studied their sites and looked through feedbacks and comments on the services you get there and I must admit I haven't found any information on 3d presentations of the donors.. of course I might have missed something.. but still I like the clinic supplying that opportunity. That's highly important matter for a couple to chose someone resembling them as a donor. As far as I remember that's the Ukrainian clinic you are talking about. Am I right?
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Post by lovelymoon on May 15, 2017 8:31:23 GMT
I don’t think they would charge any additional fees. At least, I hope they won’t do this. We have to sign up a contract with them. According to this contract, the clinic will charge a fixed sum. This sum will be divided into several installments as we’re going to book several shots. We will be able to make the payment either in cash or via a bank transfer. This is the way they charge fees for their services. What do you think about it?
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Post by ammanma on May 15, 2017 13:07:05 GMT
I don’t think they would charge any additional fees. At least, I hope they won’t do this. We have to sign up a contract with them. According to this contract, the clinic will charge a fixed sum. This sum will be divided into several installments as we’re going to book several shots. We will be able to make the payment either in cash or via a bank transfer. This is the way they charge fees for their services. What do you think about it? Hello. Well, it sounds really good. It's not always possible to have all that money at once so it's very convenient to pay in parts. You must be extremely careful and attentive while reading the contract because pitfalls is a common thing. You should ask as many questions about different difficulties that may occur to know that contract terms are transparent and clear. Ask about different "what ifs". and if you are satisfied with everything then make your decision. I'd like too recommend you one public organization Happy Family. Specialists can give you a piece of advice on international fertility treatment so you can make sure your choice is right. It's free, so you don't need tto worry. Anyway, I wish you good luck whatever you choose x |
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