malia
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Post by malia on Dec 6, 2017 4:14:59 GMT
It has been 4 weeks since my baby was born. There weren’t any complications. However, I just don’t feel happy anymore. There isn’t any excitement. The baby for which I have waited for 3 years ,is now in my hands. Still I don’t feel attach to my son. I keep crying while breast feeding him. Is this normal. Am I frustrated due to all the infertility treatment? Yesterday my baby was crying and I just didn’t felt like breastfeeding him. My husband was quite furious because of it. He thinks Iam not being a good mom. Am I really not a good mom. Please help me ladies. How to be a better mom? How can I concentrate more on my baby?
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Post by smarty on Dec 12, 2017 21:38:36 GMT
Hello, dear. Looks like you faced so called afterbirth depression. A lot of women face it after the delivery. I'm sure that you love your baby. You are a good mom. Stop being so negative. It is your child, of course you love him. You just need some time to get used to a new social role. You are a mother now. You are responsible for your baby. Sop trying to assure yourself that you are a bad mother. By the way, your husband should support you in this situation. Try to explain him what you are feeling. I'm sure he will understand you. You definitely need his help at the moment.
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Post by marion34 on Dec 17, 2017 22:11:46 GMT
Don't think about yourself like that. Be patient, you have that in you. You just need to relax. You will get out of this depression. You are not alone in this. Many women suffered from the depression after birth. It will be better after some time. You will enjoy in being a mother.
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Post by marion34 on Dec 17, 2017 22:13:24 GMT
Don't think about yourself like that. Be patient, you have that in you. You just need to relax. You will get out of this depression. You are not alone in this. Many women suffered from the depression after birth. It will be better after some time. You will enjoy in being a mother.
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Post by elissaparker on Dec 20, 2017 13:49:07 GMT
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Post by pearlocean on Dec 21, 2017 0:57:54 GMT
It is your first one that is why you are feeling this way. Many women feel this. After sometime literally you are going to laugh at your behaviour. After sometime you'll never ever see more attachment of yourself other then him. He is a part of your body afterall. Don't worry it's not that you are not good. It's all about time.
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Post by payton256 on Dec 21, 2017 3:18:44 GMT
Hi there honey. This is a common condition called postpartum depression. It is also commonly referred to as baby blues. Quite a few women suffer from this. Your body is reacting to the loss of the fetus. It usually goes away on its own in a few weeks. If it persists, seek professional help.
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tina
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Post by tina on Dec 21, 2017 4:12:40 GMT
Aww dear! It's pretty normal between a couple due to an infant. I don't think that you should take hard on yourself. I think you should also make your husband understand by your words and actions that you're fine. It's just matter of time. Your baby will be fine in few years after becoming a toddler. It's just stress that's taking you. Don't worry! Just be calm and strong! xoxo
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Post by amanda on Jan 14, 2018 5:27:23 GMT
Hi there Malia. Why is it so? Are you not happy with your life? I didn't get it. How a person can not love his child? Which infertility treatment you went through? I am curious to know. Please try to understand. Your child and hubby both needs your attention and care. I went through a painful delivery. when I saw my baby I forgot all the pain and just start crying with happiness. Sweet heart, you need to understand the facts. Don't lose the love of your husband and your child. Stay happy and blessed. Take care of your diet and health. Good Luck.
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marry
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Post by marry on Jan 18, 2018 20:38:09 GMT
Dear you are actually having Postpartum Depression also called Postnatal depression. It is a type of mood disorder associated with childbirth, which can affect both sexes. It's symptoms are extreme sadness, low energy level, anxiety, crying episodes, irritability and changes in sleeping or eating patterns. You are no doubt, a good mother. You have waited for your child for many years. If you do not feel happy anymore, it's not your fault. Your husband must understand, that it is a phase of depression. He must support you instead of becoming furious to you. This depression can last from 6 months to almost 3 years. So, try to overcome it as early as possible. Some medication is also available, that can help to get out of this depression. You can use with the advice of your gynaecologist. Stay positive and relaxed. You will get out of this situation soon.
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tessa
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Post by tessa on Jan 24, 2018 21:52:03 GMT
I think you are facing depression. It happens just after the delivery. Many women face this. You must be having feelings for your baby. I think you should think that you are best. Do not underestimate yourself. Try to deal with this depression. Tell your partner about your feelings. Consult a good doctor. A little help will soothe you. I hope you should be brave now. Come out of the guilt. Enjoy the feeling of motherhood. It is only you who can deal with it. Be strong and calm. All the best to you.
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Post by pansy on Jan 31, 2018 15:32:46 GMT
I can feel your pain. When I came back with my baby in arm from BioTexCom; I was in the same depression. It is known as Afterbirth Depression. I was so worried that I am not being good. I just don’t know why I don’t feel any attachment from it. I don’t even think it is normal. I even called my doctor in BioTexCom. They said that maybe I have stored in my conscious mind that the baby is not born in a natural way. She told me to tell go of this thought. How can I? Is this really normal. No. It is not. I am not being a good mother. I just hope, God gives me strength to face whatever I am being forced to face.
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Post by amelia on Feb 26, 2018 22:26:32 GMT
I can understand your situation. It’s a phase where every woman thinks like that. This is because there was a wall between you and your baby at that time. Then you think good about it. you like to think about his/her future. How you will play with him/her. In short, you began to make future plans for him/her. But once you got in the real world then you can’t imagine that he/she will look like that. Either you will be able to take him/her in your lap. Now he is in your hands but your mind is not accepting this thing. Because you have gone through multiple treatments. Many doctors had given you negative feedback. And you become upset. After passing some time you will automatically develop a loving relationship. Your connection will be stronger more and more. You will like to feed him at the proper time. Then it will become your routine. It takes time to change your habits and routine as well.
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Post by lolita on Feb 28, 2018 21:54:10 GMT
You are a good mom, dear. A lot of women face this kind of depression after the delivery. Your husband should support you. You need time to get used to your new life. You are not alone any more. You have to take care of your newborn. I know that it scares you. You are afraid of hurting him and so on. So, don’t be afraid. Keep taking care of your baby and everything will be fine. You gave birth to a small human and your life will never be the same. You should accept this fact.
Try to talk to your husband. Explain him what you are feeling. I’m sure he will understand you.
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Post by noveta on Mar 15, 2018 12:48:09 GMT
Infertility is really a big problem.Causes could be any like smoking, alcohol drinking, Infections, and carelessness.But losing hope is not the solution.Modern science has invented many cures.There are many clinics in Europe which are providing the way to conceive a baby.Even they are allowing the parents to choose gender.So, consult with a good clinic. Don't lose hope.
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