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Post by amy425 on Nov 10, 2017 21:29:05 GMT
Hello, forum visitors.
You know, my friend needs your help. Just an advice, nothing more. She is 40, and she cannot get pregnant. She turned to IVF. Unfortunately, it was a failure. Now she is frustrated. She doesn’t know what to do. She really wants to be a mother, but because of this failure she hesitates. She is not sure that she may continue. She is just afraid that the next attempt will not be successful too.
She is married and has a wonderful husband. He is always with her. He says, that he is ready to try again. He wants to continue trying to make his family full. But his wife can’t get herself together. So, maybe somebody was in the same situation? Or maybe somebody have heard about such stories and knows what to do. Please help. Any advice will be useful. I don’t know how to encourage my friend. I know that I need support her, but I don’t know how to do it better. As far as I know IVF works in 90%. And failures are only in the other 10%. Unfortunately, my friend wasn’t lucky. But I am sure, that she will able to become a mother. Now I want her to be more confident in herself. How I can’t achieve it? Thanks for any advice. Hope, that my friend will be fine.
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Post by diana652 on Nov 10, 2017 21:31:52 GMT
Hello, Amy452!
You know, I turned to IVF 2 years ago, when I was 42. Now I am a happy mother of a completely healthy child. I am so glad that, because my husband and I can have a full family. I got pregnant after the first try. But I know, that sometimes there may be several unsuccessful attempts. Sometimes it is connected with the doctors, sometimes with the woman’s health. In such situations it is important not to give up. Your friend shouldn’t worry and continue trying.
Also, you know, maybe she needs to consult some other doctors. Sometimes it is really help. Now she is in a situation, when support is really needed. She should try one more time only if she is ready for it. In such situation most of the women are very disappointed, they don’t believe in a success any more. So, she needs to feel that you are not alone. If her family with her, encourages her, it is great. She should be strong. It is not the right time to hesitate. If she wants to become a mother, she needs to believe in herself, in doctors. If so, everything will be great. Optimistic mood is really important. She should remember about it. She needs to decide whether she really wants to continue and has enough power. Now she needs to calm down and forget about failures. I now it is difficult, but it is necessary. She needs to understand that her attitude to it is the most important thing. Hope that she will be fine. I am sure she will be able to become a great mother. Wish you and your friend good luck. God bless you!
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Post by amy425 on Nov 10, 2017 21:33:30 GMT
Thank you, dear!
Thanks for the quick answer. This information is really important for me. Of course you are right. It is very responsible and serious step. My friend should think carefully. You know she is going to visit one of the clinics next month. The doctors there are good, as far as I know. The conditions are great too. She will need to pass some tests. But her husband wants to visit two or three more clinics. He wants to compare them and decide which of them is better. He decided to turn to clinics in different countries. He has heard lots of information about them. People say, that they are pretty good. Their reputation is very high. They are considered to be the best in the world. By the way, you say that you got pregnant from the first attempt. It is really great. I know that it depends on doctors and your health. Say, what clinic did you choose? What country did you turn to? Why did you make this decision? Is the clinic really good? Maybe I need to visit it too, but I am not confident. I know that IVF programs are all the same in different clinics, so they are going to pass tests in different clinics. Now they try to collect as much information as they can about different clinics in the world. I want to do all my best to support my friend so this period is the most important. So, maybe you can tell me a little about the clinic you turn to? Are the doctors good? And what about the conditions? Was it expensive? Hope you will help me.
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Post by diana652 on Nov 10, 2017 21:38:33 GMT
You are welcome!
I think I really can help you. First of all, I want to say, that the clinic I turned to chose my spouse. Before that we turned to three more clinics. But you know I didn’t really like them. They are pretty good, the specialists are great. But their prices were pretty high too. At that time we were thinking about two of these three clinics. But them a friend of my husband told us one story. His sister had the same problem as we are. This woman turned to a Ukrainian clinic. She became a mother after the first attempt. He said, that she was completely satisfied with everything about this clinic. So my spouse said that we should try to turn to it too. We were thinking about it for some time and decided to try. We came to Ukraine and find the clinic BioTexCom. When were came there, we questioned the doctors about all the information we needed to know. So, I think it is pretty good one.
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Post by amy425 on Nov 10, 2017 21:41:03 GMT
Thank you very much! I am glad to get any help and advice! You really helped me. I am sure my friend should think about this clinic. You know, I have heard about it. But up to now I wasn’t confident whether it is really good. Thanks for the useful information. I think it would help not only my friend. It will be important for the other women that are looking for a good clinic. I think that my friend will visit it. I think that it is important to talk to doctors of all the clinics they have chosen. Maybe they really will find out that the clinic you told me about is much better. But maybe not. It is very important for them to know that I will work with the true specialists. My friend doesn’t want to turn to a clinic where doctors are not experienced. This may affect the outcome. Mothering is my friends’ dream from the young age. Her spouse is ready for everything to make it come true. I want everything to be fine. Hope that she will be able to make her spouse happy soon.
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Post by anne on Nov 13, 2017 20:03:18 GMT
Don't worry dear, life is all about experiences whether bad or good, you need to helps your friend to have faith in good and things will be sorted. it is not about getting failed for the first time in fact she do have many of other options available out there. right now we do have so many options available that helps to get the best surprises in life. make her realize that she do have so many options and chances still available to make her family complete and get the best blessings in her life. one failed experience never leads the things into disaster but get so many other opportunities coming to life, all we need is to explore more things. there are many other clinical options available to get better with the results and have all the happiness. moreover, you need to support her in her fight Against insecurities and along with the procedures makes sure to able her in believing herself. this will diffidently get the best results out of all the efforts you guys will put in collectively.
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Post by rohmat on Nov 20, 2017 8:06:58 GMT
Hello, forum visitors. You know, my friend needs your help. Just an advice, nothing more. She is 40, and she cannot get pregnant. She turned to IVF. Unfortunately, it was a failure. Now she is frustrated. She doesn’t know what to do. She really wants to be a mother, but because of this failure she hesitates. She is not sure that she may continue. She is just afraid that the next attempt will not be successful too. She is married and has a wonderful husband. He is always with her. He says, that he is ready to try again. He wants to continue trying to make his family full. But his wife can’t get herself together. So, maybe somebody was in the same situation? Or maybe somebody have heard about such stories and knows what to do. Please help. Any advice will be useful. I don’t know how to encourage my friend. I know that I need support her, but I don’t know how to do it better. As far as I know IVF works in 90%. And failures are only in the other 10%. Unfortunately, my friend wasn’t lucky. But I am sure, that she will able to become a mother. Now I want her to be more confident in herself. How I can’t achieve it? Thanks for any advice. Hope, that my friend will be fine. |
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Post by rohmat on Nov 20, 2017 8:07:14 GMT
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Hellow Amy
Your friend’s story is very similar to my elder sister’s. She had no baby in 6 years of her marital life. She tried IVF but it turned out to be a failure in her case. But now, she has a two-year-old boy and a 3 months old girl.
See, IVF works for a lot of people but some things don’t work out for everyone. It didn’t work out for my sister and it’s not working out for your friend. But it is not the only option she has. She shouldn’t be disappointed. There are many other ways of having a baby. And the one which I will suggest is surrogacy because it is the best option in her case. My sister went for this too.
I would recommend gestational surrogacy instead of a traditional one, in which the surrogate woman will go through IVF to carry your friend’s baby. Your friend and her husband will just have to donate their eggs and sperms.
Tell your friend that she doesn’t need to be disappointed. By surrogacy, she can surely have her own baby. She is not alone. A lot of people go through the same issues and there are people who are there to help them."
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Post by katy2017 on Nov 28, 2017 22:57:57 GMT
Hello. My sister found out that she is infertile 5 years ago. We talked to all famous fertility specialists. She also tried the IVF twice, but it didn’t help. After long discussions they announced that they have adopted a baby boy. Both our mother and me were surprised. But now we are very happy that she did it. The boy is a great 5 years old kid. We all love him very much. But in a couple of years after adoption they decided that they want to have more kids. After a huge research they asked me to become a surrogate for them. You know, I was shocked and surprised at the same time. I didn’t know that it is possible. We visited several reproduction centers to find out the truth. As a result, we found out that I can give birth to their baby. I was 30 years old and I had one own baby born. I was a great person on the role of the surrogate.
I wanted to help my sister that’s why I agreed. We’ve gone through lots of tests and examinations. It didn’t take much time, by the way. And the clinic guaranteed that my sister will get the baby. After the embryo transfer and pregnancy beginning I was under the doctor’s control 24/7. I was constantly taking different tests to find out if the baby is fine. I was very happy and scared at the same time. I knew that the baby born will be genetically related to my sister and her husband.
I think your friend can use surrogacy as an option. My sister’s daughter was born in time and she is absolutely healthy. I’m very glad that I helped her with this issue. I see how happy she is. Surrogacy really works and it is absolutely safe. I think you should try it.
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Post by amanda on Dec 3, 2017 8:36:28 GMT
Hey Amy, how do you do? When did your friend get married? I am 100% sure that trying again will work for sure. Are you talking about trying IVF or ttc? If ttc, then they should try again and again. If IVF, they should try at least 2 more times. I am glad to hear about her supportive husband. In which country do she live? I mean If she lives in a country where surrogacy is legal then she may go for surrogacy. Ask her not to lose hope in any case. Surrogacy works in 100% whereas IVf works in 95%. Adopting a baby is also a beautiful thing as you are going to give a motherly love to a children who really deserve. Ask her to keep calm and stay positive. I wish her all the best. Take care.
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Post by malia on Dec 3, 2017 19:47:33 GMT
Welcome amy425, it’s so good to see that you are so concerned about your friend. Everyone should have a friend like you in their life. Who is their to support you in good and bad times. My sister who is a mother of two now. Went for IVF for her first one. After two failed attempts, in her case the third one was successful. Although she went through a lot of stress. Mental stress plus physical stress. Towards the end she was very tired, that she was about to give up. However, proper support and counselling helped her. Due to the stressful experience, for the second one she went for surrogacy. According to her it was a completely different and a less stressful experience. Your friend needs proper counselling. Strong support is also vital. Tell her to talk to her doctor about her concerns. Hope she chooses what’s right for her.
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Post by julliet589 on Dec 7, 2017 11:04:36 GMT
Hello Amy425. Where did you get those statistics from? From what I know, the success rate really isn't that high. Regardless, the important point here is the well-being of your friend. The appropriate treatment option depends upon her situation. You haven't given any details about that. You could look into surrogacy or adoption even.
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Post by nancygadot on Dec 20, 2017 15:23:42 GMT
Hey Amy. Your friend is having the same issue I had. I am glad that I read your post. Now, I will be able to change someone's life too. Mine got changed by some amazing human at this forum. I was also infertile. I tried IVF but I was also one of the people for whom IVF doesn't work. I wasted 3 years on IVF. I have been through countless cycles. You can't imagine how stressful that was. After 3 years, I gave up. I was like, I am not gonna go through this shit again. This is a hell lot of stress. I shared my issue here. Someone then introduced me to surrogacy. That woman also referred me to a clinic in Ukraine. That clinic changed my life. Because of their help and because of this amazing process, I got my baby. I think your friend should also go for surrogacy. This will change her life too. Just like mine. I have a 4-year-old boy now.
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Post by mindy on Dec 20, 2017 23:46:38 GMT
Hey evergreen ladies?My husband and I were TTC for few years. Unfortunately, all our tries failed. We decided to use donor eggs. IVF with de was our last chance to become parents. We were looking for a clinic with high rates and reasonable prices. Eventually, we chose Ukrainian biotexcom. This clinic uses fresh eggs, has low prices(if to compare with clinics of the other countries) and also it doesn't have age limits. We paid €4.900 for whole procedure and all services. I've got pregnant from the 1st attempt and gave birth to a healthy child!We timed our first visit perfectly and I began my first treatment just days after the visit. It seemed that our luck had changed. We were young, our tests were good and we had nothing obvious giving us any doubts. God decided it was time and nine months later our miracle was born. My pregnancy was a dream. I would do it 100 times to have this baby again. Our baby is almost two months old and we still can’t take our eyes off of her.
Thank you to all of the nurses and doctors the Biotex Clinic. Without you and a little luck, our life wouldn’t be complete. We will see you again in a few years when we are ready to try for another miracle!I would recommend that clinic to any couple seeking help with this problem.
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Post by alinamike on Dec 21, 2017 0:09:19 GMT
Hello all! Wish you all good lucks for your pregnancies and treatments. I know we all suffering from something, but infertility is something beyond limit, as no one like a woman without kids. So, my doctor suggested me to go for IUI option. And I have very little knowledge of this procedure. So, I decided to go to BiotexCom that is located in Ukraine because they give you proper awareness of every treatment before starting it. I know they will educate me and satisfy me. I want to know something positive about the procedure and clinic also. Thank you.
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