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Post by anyees on Nov 8, 2017 12:25:23 GMT
Hello Tim, I am really depressed after reading your post. How can someone be so rude? The behavior of your husband is so inhumane. Our bodies are prepared to keep origination from happening amid times of extraordinary anxiety. The nearness of adrenalin, the hormone that is discharged by our bodies amid unpleasant circumstances, signs to our body that conditions are not perfect for origination. Adrenaline restrains us from using the hormone progesterone, which is fundamental for infertility. It likewise makes the pituitary organ discharge larger amounts of prolactin, which cause infertility. This might be the reason you were unable to conceive. I am glad that you took the proper medication due to which you were able to conceive. Have the behavior of your husband changed after your baby? Does he still torture you emotionally and physically? If yes, you need to think of divorce or separation. I know it will be hard to become a single parent but I think you have to do it for your child. It would affect him mentally. I am not trying to create more misunderstandings between you and your husband. I am just saying it for the sake of your child
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Post by mehwishhony on Nov 8, 2017 12:26:45 GMT
Hi Tim. I am shocked to read about your husband. Why were you bearing all the torture from him? It's really shocking to know that you are still together. I am happy that you managed to have a baby. However, I am worried about the effect of this torture on your baby. How your husband can be so inhumane? You have been fighting two battles at the same time. The battle against infertility is already very hard. If you have your husband support, it becomes easier to fight against infertility battle. I believe that your battle was excessively hard, as your husband did not support you. Stress can also cause infertility. You were under pressure from your husband, which ultimately lead you towards stress. As a result, you became infertile. Does he still treat you the same way? Does he love your baby?
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Post by jonyhony on Nov 8, 2017 12:29:57 GMT
Hi there. You are most welcome to share anything you want. I know it is a very hard time you are going through. I can feel your pain but things never remain the same. After every difficulty, there is a relief. It is suggested to not to take stress in life. Reducing the stress in life is so important on many different levels. It will not only help your fertility and health but will also improve your quality of life. If your job is stressful, try to find a new one. I know it may be hard but it is for your safety. I am glad that you have now become a mother. Has the behavior of your husband changed after your baby? I know it may sound rude but why don’t you think of a separation? It is hard to live such a miserable life. It will leave a negative impact on your child.
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Post by ellaoty5 on Nov 8, 2017 12:32:32 GMT
Hi Tim. You are welcome in this forum. You can share whatever you want, my dear. Stress is really hard to deal with. It not only breaks you mentally but physically too. Was it your love marriage? Didn’t you know about the drinking habit of your husband before you were married? Stress even causes infertility. Might be, this was the reason of unable to conceive. However, I am glad that you consulted the doctor. Doctors provide you with the best solutions to problems. We instead of taking the stress should consult the doctor immediately. Anyways, I am glad that you were able to conceive a baby. I hope you and your baby are doing fine. Has your husband stopped drinking or does he treats you the same way? Let me know about him. His attitude to you is making me worried.
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Post by ellaoty5 on Nov 8, 2017 12:32:52 GMT
Hi girl. Stress can leave a very bad impact on your health. It disturbs you both emotionally and physically. I think you were unable to get pregnant because of the tests. However, I appreciate you for consulting the doctor. I am happy that you finally managed to conceive a baby. I hope you and your baby are doing good now.
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Post by mexge on Nov 8, 2017 12:35:26 GMT
Hey Hunbun! Everyone has ups and downs in our life. It does not mean that is the end of your life or you should try to end your life. It is the time to show some courage. You can conceive and still not have any fruits, I am upset about your condition. Let me tell you that my condition is very similar to yours. I can also conceive but I am not allowed to do so. The reason behind it is my heart disease that is known as Mitral stenosis. So you are not the only one with such a bad lack. I am also with you. Your husband’s behavior towards you is really bad and embarrassing. He has no right to behave like this. Have you ever thought why does he do so? Well, I think because he wants to have a baby and you cannot give him. I am not accusing you of anything. I am trying to tell you that you should look for a solution. If you tell him one day that you can give him a baby through a process known as surrogacy, he will automatically change. Yes! Surrogacy is the solution to your case. You just have to contact a clinic that has good surrogacy facilities and the one which you can afford. The rest will be taken care of by the clinic and you will be delivered your child after a specific time. The point is that through this process you will not have to carry the child and there will be no miscarriage. The clinic will find a surrogate mother for you who will carry the child. Everything will be fine and you can know the condition of the surrogate mother from time to time. Just go and tell your husband when he is not high on alcohol. I hope things will change for the good soon.
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Post by zaniim on Nov 8, 2017 12:38:04 GMT
Can I call you Timmy? I like this nickname. I hope you will not mind. I truly understand that life gets tougher for the infertile women as their family and husband are looking upon them to have a new member to the family and they fail to do so. There is nothing bad in it as it is not your fault. It is decided by the fate and you need to accept it because then you will be able to move on. Moving on is the best thing a human being can do in difficult situations. Your husband I not thinking straight at the moment. I think he feels the absence of a baby in his life. You can make things right. I don’t know how long will the medication take for you to come out of this situation but why don’t you opt for surrogacy? It is the quickest and safest way to have your child. As you are able to conceive so it means that you can donate your eggs. Your husband also needs to donate his sperm so an embryo can be formed. That embryo will be implanted in the surrogate mother and she will deliver your baby after the specific time of pregnancy. Look! You can still be a mother. You can know other details about surrogacy on the internet and a lot of clinics are also available now that offers the opportunity to infertile women to become mother. Talk to your doctor and take your husband with you so that your doctor can guide him well. Best of luck!
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Post by jaseka on Nov 8, 2017 12:40:30 GMT
Hello Tim! Everybody has good and bad times throughout our life. It doesn't imply that is the finish of your life or you should attempt to end your life. It is an ideal opportunity to demonstrate some boldness. You can imagine and still not have any natural products, I am vexed about your condition. Oh, my goodness that my condition is fundamentally the same as yours. I can likewise imagine yet I am not permitted to do as such. The explanation for it is my coronary illness that is known as Mitral stenosis. So you are by all account not the only one with such an awful need. I am likewise with you. Your significant other's conduct towards you is truly terrible and humiliating. He has no privilege to act this way. Have you at any point figured for what reason does he do as such? Well, I think since he needs to have a child and you can't give him. I am not blaming you for anything. I am endeavoring to reveal to you that you should search for an answer. In the event that you reveal to him one day that you can give him an infant through a procedure known as surrogacy, he will consequently change. Truly! Surrogacy is the answer for your case. You simply need to contact a center that has great surrogacy offices and the one which you can bear. The rest will be dealt with by the center and you will be conveyed your kid after a particular time. The fact of the matter is that through this procedure you won't need to convey the kid and there will be no unsuccessful labor. The center will locate a surrogate mother for you who will convey the tyke. There is no reason to worry and you can know the state of the surrogate mother every now and then. Simply go and tell your better half when he isn't high on liquor. I seek things will change after the great soon.
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Post by mesaka on Nov 8, 2017 12:42:43 GMT
"Welcome to the forum, Tim!
I am sorry I can't believe your husband did that to you.
How's he now with you? I hope things got better, yes?
I must admire your patience and denunciate how the world treats females, especially after marriage.
To put an end to this men's violence against women every one of us must stand up and act. I'm not sure you, Tim, have continued living with him, but you always have a choice to leave. It's better to live alone than sleeping with a jerk.
You decided to continue and that's pretty much the reason for this violence. Don't settle for something like that.
I know we have so much on our minds when we think of speaking against it... we care about our families when they don't. We worry about our child, born or unborn, and so we chose misery for us.
Sometimes, people pass negative comments about women. Every time a guy talks to me that way, I scold that scoundrel in public. Remind them that what if this was their daughter/sister/son. Give your opinion to show your disapproval. That's very very important.
Wish you good luck and try to give us an update on how is he with you these days."
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Post by waxsy on Nov 8, 2017 12:44:17 GMT
Hi Tim,
Nice to have you on board!
I’m so sorry to hear you have had marital problems. You are so right about the stress.
Unfortunately, that is so common in our society. Remember, we are a free nation and we have rights. More rights than any other nation’s women have. Sadly, that’s just in the eyes of the law. Unless we don’t approach them, they will never notice. Therefore, if you are facing domestic abuse, do come out and tell the authorities. Tell Police. You have all the right to. Like the other lady said, don’t settle for this. You deserve better.
I’m happy for you and your baby. I wish you two all the happiness in the world. Stay together, stay blessed!
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Post by joslynmoyer on Nov 8, 2017 12:47:12 GMT
If you witness violence, honey, you need to speak up. Not just on forums. It's okay to share it on forums but do tell the people who can really make it stop, like Police. Focus on what you can do. Always keep yourself and others safe. Ask for help from people near you. There are so many courageous women and men out there who want to help, but they won't know unless you tell them. If you are kinda shy or an introvert, the least you can do is to try telling someone you trust. This someone could be from your family or from your small friends' circle. Tell them what you are facing and ask them to do something about it.
Speak up. Speak out.
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Post by saraqueen on Dec 8, 2018 4:55:23 GMT
Hi there! I am so sorry for what your husband did to you. You are such a strong person. After that infertility too, I must say that you are an inspiration. I m also having my surrogacy at this clinic abroad. I m glad I found the right place at the right time for myself. Stay blessed!
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Post by barbaraww on Jan 2, 2019 4:21:54 GMT
Stress is a really bad thing for your health. I know how much power it takes to share your story. But people here really understand each other. It's easy to share your story here than the real world, people have experienced the same things as you. So they are able to guide you with their experience. Stay blessed.
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Post by hannah on Apr 21, 2019 10:04:55 GMT
I didn't know this. Thank you for sharing the information. It is indeed very important to not stress much. When I was in the middle of the IVF process last year I used to stress a lot. I do believe that was one of the reasons that my process didn't work for us. I am hoping that things work out now. Good luck to you. Sending baby dust your way.
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Post by mandy5238678 on May 2, 2019 8:35:47 GMT
Jeez, why did you even stay with him after all he has done? You were supposed to leave him after the first time it happened. Marriage cannot be anything else, but the inspiring place to be! Not anything like letting you down that much. You are the first person you need to care about, especially if you want to give a birth to another little one.. I do not understand women who let their husbands treat them that way. Darling, get a bit of confidence and leave whoever makes you feel unhappy. Do not ruin your inner world just because somebody you love is dumb enough to do so. Agree. Marriage is where you are supposed to be yourself. to feel like it. to finally breathe freely. and it is not it. My husband was really supportive and still is. when we first started thinking about surrogacy, he was the one to find our agency. he proposed to sign with WCOB and he was right about them. e was there for me through all of the m/c. and if not for him... I would have not been able to go through it.. |
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