nenci
New Member
Posts: 7
|
Post by nenci on Jan 18, 2018 12:26:37 GMT
Hi, I would like to ask your advice. We know our only options are surrogacy or adoption. He doesn't want to adopt. He wants to use a surrogate. But I don't know how I feel about that. Plus the expense is so high to do so. I find myself crying myself to sleep some nights. I do not know what to do in this situation. I am 39 years old, and my husband is 36 years old.
|
|
|
Post by jess007 on Jan 18, 2018 12:43:26 GMT
I think that you should not be so upset. But I want to say that you have incorrect attitude to surrogacy. You have the chance to have biologically your child, and it will look like your husband for example. And why did you decide that surrogacy is inaccessibly expensive? Where do you want to have a program? Did you consider country and clinic? If you are talking about US, I completely agree with you, it is very expensive. It is approximately 100 k for one attempt. And very often one attempt is not enough. But you can look for clinics in other countries.
|
|
|
Post by staysy on Jan 18, 2018 12:54:32 GMT
Hello! It is great that you want to get a child with a man who you love! I totally share your feelings. And it is even greater that you both want it! I think you should change a bit your attitude to surrogacy. Of course you are not the one who will carry your child. But still genetically the kid will be yours. You will look into his eyes and see your beloved husband. I think it is the biggest happiness what can happen to any couple.
I passed through a divorce because of the absence of children. My ex-husband didn`t even want to hear about adoption or surrogacy. But i have my actual husband. We love each other a lot and we want to try surrogacy. We gathered a lot of information about this. We compared prices, quality, guarantees and so on. Now we are thinking a lot. This is extremely important decision and we do not want to hurry. Recently I found an interesting information about one of the clinic. And now we are going to visit them.
And about price… It is true that there are pretty high prices for surrogacy in some places. But they are different in different countries.
|
|
nenci
New Member
Posts: 7
|
Post by nenci on Jan 18, 2018 13:37:36 GMT
I think that you should not be so upset. But I want to say that you have incorrect attitude to surrogacy. You have the chance to have biologically your child, and it will look like your husband for example. And why did you decide that surrogacy is inaccessibly expensive? Where do you want to have a program? Did you consider country and clinic? If you are talking about US, I completely agree with you, it is very expensive. It is approximately 100 k for one attempt. And very often one attempt is not enough. But you can look for clinics in other countries. Thanks for your reply. Tell me please, do you also have a experience of surrogacy? You must understand the reasons for my despair, because I am already 39 years old, and my husband is younger than me. We love each other, but I think that we just need to have a child so that our family will become stronger. Yes, I agree with you, in America the price is very high. We do not have such a large sum of money. And which countries can you recommend to me? At the moment, I'm a little bit upset and lost, so my actions are led by emotions.
|
|
|
Post by jess007 on Jan 18, 2018 13:47:20 GMT
I think that you should not be so upset. But I want to say that you have incorrect attitude to surrogacy. You have the chance to have biologically your child, and it will look like your husband for example. And why did you decide that surrogacy is inaccessibly expensive? Where do you want to have a program? Did you consider country and clinic? If you are talking about US, I completely agree with you, it is very expensive. It is approximately 100 k for one attempt. And very often one attempt is not enough. But you can look for clinics in other countries. Thanks for your reply. Tell me please, do you also have a experience of surrogacy? You must understand the reasons for my despair, because I am already 39 years old, and my husband is younger than me. We love each other, but I think that we just need to have a child so that our family will become stronger. Yes, I agree with you, in America the price is very high. We do not have such a large sum of money. And which countries can you recommend to me? At the moment, I'm a little bit upset and lost, so my actions are led by emotions. I can propose you to pay attention to Ukraine. It is beautiful country with its pros and cons. But I want to say that their approaches in reproductive medicine are amazing. We took the All included surrogacy package in biotexcom. And they propose a lot of advantages in their packages. And for example they have all inclusive package for a single price without any hidden payments. And we didn`t pay anything more for apartment, food or transportation. Everything was included into the price of the package. Their taxi drive will meet you in airport. Also clinic provides you with translator, medications, treatment, and consultations.
|
|
nenci
New Member
Posts: 7
|
Post by nenci on Jan 18, 2018 13:54:39 GMT
Thanks for the recommendation and for your reply. But I'm worried about one more issue, namely the legal part of the issue. How can my husband and I solve the issue of registration of documents in a foreign country? I am very worried that we can face with a great difficulties. How to act in this case? And how did you solve this problem? After all, we need to ensure that these documents are legal in our country.
|
|
|
Post by jess007 on Jan 18, 2018 14:00:44 GMT
We didn`t worry about legal part of the question. Because in some cases it`s pretty complicated and can be even a problem. But in our case the clinic was responsible for all the document`s stuff. What I highly recommend you is to go to this clinic and to see what you are paying for. Then you will realize that it is worth it! I hope you will make a decision which will be right for you. Just don`t be afraid of surrogacy. It is something what can make you happy. During our visits to the clinic I saw several couples with babies.They were so nice and their parents looked very excited. Maybe that was one of the facts that pulled me to sign the contract. When you see the result it, the positive result, even if it isn’t yours, it makes you more decisive, braver. Initially you always have a lot of doubts. They must disappear soon if everything is ok. That thing happened with us. I have completely distinct feelings before my visit and after. I don’t regret about it at all.
|
|
nenci
New Member
Posts: 7
|
Post by nenci on Jan 18, 2018 14:05:48 GMT
Have you visited several clinics? Or you immediately decided on the choice of the clinic? My husband and I think that we need to visit several clinics. Since this will help us compare the service. And in general, it seems to me that we will be able to decide only when we visit several clinics. It is important for us to communicate with managers. And also it is important for us that they would communicate with us in our language.
|
|
|
Post by jess007 on Jan 18, 2018 14:10:30 GMT
I was in some clinics in Kiev. I must confess that they were totally different. I didn’t find anything similar between them at all. In other clinics we were pressed with signing contract. We received vague answers on our questions. There were no patients in the clinic. This fact put us on the alert.
|
|
nenci
New Member
Posts: 7
|
Post by nenci on Jan 18, 2018 14:17:16 GMT
Thank you for your answers, but I would like to ask you one more question. Tell me please, what other countries did you consider as a possible option. Sorry that I'm asking you so many questions. But you understand that every detail is important in this matter. And it is always very interesting to talk with the person who already has experience. It is very interesting to chat with you. I hope that you will still be online.
|
|
|
Post by jess007 on Jan 18, 2018 14:27:37 GMT
You should realize that it isn’t easy thing. You couldn’t just come to the clinics and they will give you a baby. Surrogacy is very difficult process. Before going to this clinic I had negative experience. I understand that I want to be a mother most of all. It is natural that women want to have their children. It isn’t a secret, of course; first we decided to go one of the country. We were promised a lot. And we believed it. The clinic seemed to be ok. It has a good exterior look. The doctors were nice and attentive. But it was our mistake to judge by externals. We were also promised a lot. The doctor told us that we would have success with the first attempt. As a result we had three attempts. All of them failed. We didn’t get any explanation. The medical personal just smiled and tried to make us quiet. When we got to know the bad news, of course, we were completely desperate. But at the same time it made my desire to be a mother even stronger. However, I wasn’t sure where it is better to go. The only thing the doctor told us was that the embryos hadn’t survived. Why it happened we didn’t get any information.Frankly speaking, when we are digging deeper and deeper we understood there were not so many options. And of course, we spent a lot of money. We had to pay for each attempt and for accommodation. Once I saw advertising of biotexcom on the internet. I tried to inquire some info about this clinic. There was not so much information. But I found very good review of it in one of the forums. I read stories written by some women. I looked at the site. And I was surprised with the prise. So we decided to visited them.
|
|
nenci
New Member
Posts: 7
|
Post by nenci on Jan 18, 2018 14:35:13 GMT
Thank you for staying online. Thank you for telling me about your situation. I'm very interested in reading about your travels. Tell me please, but how did they meet you in Ukraine? What were your first impressions? I will be grateful if you answer these questions. Of course, if you have free time for this.
|
|
|
Post by jess007 on Jan 18, 2018 14:42:02 GMT
Before going to Ukraine I contacted to a manager. She gave me all the necessary information and we arranged the date of our arrival. When we came to Ukraine we were met by a driver that worked for that clinic. Then we came to the clinic. My husband had to take semen analysis and blood test. Then we had consultation with the doctor. Only after it we concluded a contract and paid the first payment. In a month they found a surrogate mother. In general everything was fine. In brief I should say that for me the most considerable advantage of this clinic was successful result. I was satisfied with manager’s work. The medical personal work was also satisfactory. You should understand that the most important reasons is the positive result and affordable price too. The most important is that the clinic works. Nency, I hope I could help you. But I have to leave the chat.
|
|
pansy
New Member
Posts: 20
|
Post by pansy on Jan 31, 2018 16:28:09 GMT
I am sure you are having sleepless nights. Adoptions are a good option too but surrogacy is best. Why? The reason is, the baby genetically will be your own. Whenever you wished to have a DNA; it will always match with the parent. So; surrogacy is an excellent option. As far as process are concerned; fertility treatment are a bit expensive. The reason being; they are using some most advance and recent discoveries on you. We are also under this process from BioTexCom. Their costing suits us pretty well. You can have a look in it too. Just do not lose hope or sleep.
|
|
elma
New Member
Posts: 13
|
Post by elma on Jan 31, 2018 19:29:26 GMT
Hello. I am very sorry what you are going through but the point is to have a baby and complete your family. It really does not matter where the baby comes from. Think about your happiness, you should go for surrogacy to solve your problems, I have seen many people around me that got to complete their families through surrogacy from Ukraine. Get it done from Ukraine because the prices are very low compared to the treatments that are done in the USA. Best of luck!
|
|