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Post by amilie9 on Sept 24, 2017 16:22:09 GMT
Hi there!
I am here to ask: why me?
I love every kind of life. I love plants and flowers. I love animals. I love people. I always try to help, comfort, care. It is really nice to see a smile on a face. It is fascinating to watch a cat's or dog's play. It is wonderful to inhale the aroma of the nartsis or to lilac. And how delighting is it to hear words of gratitude from people.
I faced the problem I didn't expect to be.
Me and Peter have been the great friends since a child. When we grew up we developed a deep feeling. We want to be together, have a family. Before getting married Peter, I passed medical check up. I have done that because of pain in the heart, shortness of breath, weakness.
I passed echocardiogram and the other examinations. My diagnosis was rheumatic heart disease. What the worse I was said I am not able to birth a baby in the natural way.
But I always wanted to bring up my own child! Mine and Peter! What a sin did I commit? Why am I being punished? Why my destiny is so cruel?
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Post by davica45 on Sept 24, 2017 16:41:55 GMT
Hi Amilie!
I see your feeling. However your perception isn't right. You know, the life is quite complicated . You аrе enchanted one thing but disappointed another one. You love people, but they can betray you sometimes. You love flowers, but sometimes they can prick you. But you shouldn't be disappointed! You should struggle and believe. If you want something very much, the whole universe will help you.
Dear Amilie! What can be more horrible than losing his own single child! I lost my dear boy some time ago... I didn't want to live. For the sake of what? But there was a great friend of mine next to me who give me the hope.
He found the way how to return me to the life. The point is that my boy was born very hard due to my thyroid dysfunction. I have undergone serious treatment. Only thank to my young body and high professionalism of doctors I got my precious boy. However in the age of 3 year old he died of the heart disease... So my friend told me about the clinic where I could have my own baby by using surrogacy. I desired this so badly, that I have done everything for my goal. And as if all around me was helping me. Even my cat wasn't irritating me trying not doing inappropriate things when I was home.
Now I am bringing up my dear boy. Yes the boy again! This is indeed the mediation of Heaven!
Dear Amilie! I am writing all of that with hope that maybe I might be for you the friend as well. The only thing I want you to focus on your desires and go ahead to your goals. Leave any doubts! You deserve to be happy!
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Post by linye33 on Sept 24, 2017 17:03:49 GMT
Hi!
That is so dramatic what i have read here!
I agree . There are the few people on the world, who are completely healthy and prosperous.
You are in the beginning of your life. And you have some worries. Sooner or later everyone comes across with the problems. The crucial point is how to cope with them.
Your disease is really hard. But mine is harder. I have a cancer. I am living on borrowed time. But my husband stand by me all the time. I don't want him to be frustrated... That is very important to have next to you close loved person.
What about Peter? Is he with you? Is he supporting you? If he is, you will cope with you problem. You can use egg donation, surrogacy. Nowadays it is decided problem.
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Post by amilie9 on Sept 26, 2017 14:21:25 GMT
Hi!
I am a little embarrassed. On the one hand I really need some tip. On the other hand I see I am too impatient and frightened.
You know the point is I don't dare to confess to Peter about my disease. I can't imagine of lossing him. To be precise I don't want him to be unhappy because of my infertility. Using surrogacy is too expensive here. We barely can afford this way.
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Post by linye33 on Sept 26, 2017 14:31:33 GMT
Hi Amilie!
I would like to tell at once, that isn't a good idea to conceal your problems from the closest man of yours. You definitely should dare and discuss it with Peter. I am sure he will stand by you. Together you are the force! You will be able to overcome any difficulty and find the decision of your issue. You know each other so a long time. Surely, he will understand you and support. Good luck, dear!
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Post by davica45 on Sept 26, 2017 18:05:33 GMT
Hi!
Dear Amilie! You should pull yourself together and act. You have mentioned you can't afford to deal with your problem. If you put your mind to this issue, you will choose the best option.
We also are not so wealthy. But we were looking for the options. Eventually we got to know there is the great clinic in Ukraine. At first we had some doubts because of the unstable situation in this country. However after we had learned more information, we made up our mind.
They offer several programs. You can choose by your means. But all of these programs offer you the high professional doctors, great service and, that is of key importance, they guarantee result! And the price there is quite lower than here. As I have already written, I listened to the advice of my friend and went there. And I don't regret, vice versa, I am grateful!
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Post by amilie9 on Sept 26, 2017 18:18:54 GMT
Hi Davica!
Could you tell me more about this clinic? It is so far away from here. I am not sure, whether they can really help me. How do they choose the surrogate mother? Or should I find her on my own?
I would appreciate your answer. Thank you for being ready to help.
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Post by davica45 on Sept 26, 2017 18:44:51 GMT
Hi!
I will help you with a pleasure. You should worry about nothing. When you arrive there you will be met on the airport. You will undergo the medical examination. Then you will be offered to chose the program. You will sign the contract that details the whole points: from the accommodation to the treatment and receiving the birth certification of coming baby.
We chose the program that offered us being provided with more pediatrician services. It is a little costlier but we wanted to be sure about wellbeing our child. .
As for surrogacy, the agency chooses the candidates comply with the strict requirements to the health, age, having at least one healthy child, and of course – pleasant appearance. You have an opportunity to choose donor on your own from provided photos and videos.
I must admit we didn't expect such a great service. All of them: doctors, managers, interpreters were high professional and tried their best. That's why we felt being in the safely, cosy and beautiful place, surrounded by the friendly people.
In a nutshell, you had better take advantage of this option!
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Post by rebecaa8411 on Sept 30, 2017 14:35:03 GMT
Hi dear. I am happy that you are asking the question on a public platform. I am sure you will get the right answer. I will try my best to give you the right answer. Here is what we did: My DH count was not the worst, but was not the best. Our problem was 60% count, but more was the problem with morphology and motility. No problems with my eggs that we are aware of. Approx 3 mo before TTC again( on break) I had DH cut caffeine and drink more water, bought boxers, and had him start taking fertility blend,( he does chewing tobacco- no quitting on that one) But overall it definitely improved his swimmers to go straight for the egg, literally!!. We also abstained from BMS 5 days prior to IUI. Like one said it's hard to say what worked for us and what did not. but something did. I think it would be in your best interest to ask your Doctor if any of these things would work for you guys first. All of our changes were worth a try before going straight to the urologist so that he could tell us he either needs surgery or that there was nothing really that they could do to improve count motility and morph. Given that it was more the motility and morph and doing research, the urologist would not be able to help us and we'd have to go through IVF with ICSI, which is where they pick out the good sperm and put in the egg to fertilize. I'm sure this did not help too much being that we are not exactly in the same boat, but I hope it gives you something to talk to your Doctor about.
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Post by shweta118 on Oct 1, 2017 6:41:59 GMT
Hi dear. During any pregnancy, there is an increase in blood volume of 30% - 50% resulting in increased pressure on the heart valves. For women with rheumatic heart disease, this increased pressure presents increased maternal and/or foetal risks. Pregnancy can lead to the appearance or worsening of symptoms including shortness of breath with simple activity, and wake at night out of breath. For women with more severe rheumatic heart disease, it could lead to the development of much more serious symptoms such as pulmonary oedema, atrial fibrillation or clotting. These changes begin in the first trimester but peak at 28-30 weeks and are sustained until term, meaning most women with valvular heart disease become more symptomatic in the third trimester. There are few ways to manage the rheumatic heart disease in pregnancy like; Women with moderate or severe rheumatic heart disease require close supervision, normally at a tertiary referral center with cardiology and intensive care facilities. Women requiring anticoagulation during pregnancy are at additional risk of complications. Where a heart valve has been replaced, or for atrial fibrillation, anticoagulants including Warfarin or low-molecular-weight heparin (LMWH) are mostly taken. Both groups of anticoagulants can cause problems, either with an increased risk of thromboembolism or risk to the foetus. Specialist review and close monitoring is critical and is not routinely available outside of large urban centers. It is vital the woman does not miss any injections to avoid a recurrence of rheumatic fever and worsening of the rheumatic heart disease. Many women with a history of acute rheumatic fever or mild rheumatic heart disease require no special management during pregnancy but should have careful assessment preconception, or early in pregnancy, by a cardiologist and obstetrician to establish the safest birth pathway. For any specialist advice regarding pregnancy, you can consult with BioTexCom clinic in Ukraine as they are the best in these matters.
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Post by Perera on Oct 31, 2017 19:30:23 GMT
My dear stop blaming yourself. You just got dealt a poor hand. That doesn't mean you are to blame. Or that you committed some sin or mistake. Blaming yourself won't help your cause. I would suggest you spend your time thinking about solutions instead. Have you heard about surrogacy? I believe that can be the solution you need.
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Post by saraqueen on Dec 12, 2018 9:42:09 GMT
Hi there! I can feel what you are going through. But hon, Life has ups and downs that doesn't mean that we give up. There are many treatments nowadays which can help you conceive a baby. Like IUI, IVF they will help you conceive a baby. If your heart disease has spread all in your body and you can't give birth to a child then Surrogacy is the right option for you. All these treatments have a high success rate but the most successful out of these three are IVF And Surrogacy. I m having surrogacy right now so, i can tell you that it's safe and successful. But in these treatments, it's important to have a clinic which has experienced staff. I m glad I found the right one for myself. The clinic i m visiting is abroad. The packages are affordable so you won't be pressuring your pocket much. So before taking a step further make sure you are opting at a clinic with high success rate. Stay Blessed!
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Post by barbaraww on Jan 4, 2019 0:15:27 GMT
I m so sorry for what you are going through. I can totally understand your pain. I know how hard it is to stay consistent in this journey. This journey can break anyone into pieces. It's so hard and it affects your body and mind so much that you can't stay healthy anymore. But you have to fight it dear, you can't just sit doing nothing. I m also suffering from Infertility for last 6 years, but i have never made my peace with it. I will keep trying till it works out for me. You have to keep trying too, IVF is a great option for you. But with that heart disease i don't think you will be able to carry that baby. Stay blessed. Good luck.
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Post by hannah on May 23, 2019 0:13:32 GMT
Hey, I hope you are well. Dont be so hard on your way. You are not alone in this world. I would suggest that you visit a good clinic and ask them to suggest treatment. People usually opt for treatments in such situations. Therefore, dont lose hope! Good luck to you. All my prayers are with you.
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Post by monikaa on Aug 8, 2019 22:02:57 GMT
I am extremely sorry to know about your story. However, don't give up there is still hope. I think you should look into IVF. It's a great process and has worked out for many. For the process personally, I would suggest that you visit a clinic that is operating at a high success rate. This is because I made this mistake at the start of my journey. I really was desperate for things to work so I just signed up with a clinic. However, didn't research up on them. Nothing worked while I was visiting them for my process. However, recently I changed my clinic and things have immediately started to work. The clinic is soo much more considerate towards us. They even invited us to the first free consultation meeting! In this visit, we were able to learn so much about the clinic. There were so many foreigners visiting the clinic as well. I would suggest you visit them for help.
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