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Post by ritia88 on Sept 23, 2017 12:30:15 GMT
Hi there!
You know, it isn’t easy to share what I am feeling. It is intensely personal. On the other hand, it can make sense to hear your point of view.
I am 40. It is considered me to be successful. I have worked my way up to the top. There has been mutual understanding between my husband and me. All things would have seemed to be perfect, besides one aspect. I am not able to have baby. There is no problem for my husband to concern. He has kids from his first marriage. They are really nice. However, there is a difference in having your own kids.
The point is that I have been married too late, after 30, you know. My husband is not against to have a baby together. But it is appeared I am not able. I was undergone a lot of medical check-up to clear up why my pregnancy has been broken by the miscarriages. What I heard was like a verdict!... I have genetic disease. More precisely, this is called anomaly of somatic chromosomes (aneuploidy).
My husband have tried to comfort me by saying that his children will love me as well. But I am not feeling the same way. I desperately want to have my own kids. Otherwise, the whole my achievements make no sense. For the sake of whom have I tried my best?
Someone said, you may delay but time will not. That is about me. I have put off the most important thing. And now my age... Now it is impossible to fix something.
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Post by davica45 on Sept 23, 2017 12:58:53 GMT
Hi everyone!
I deeply sympathise you, Ritia.
Finding a sense of purpose and doing what makes the heart sing is one of the greatest human aspirations. Our life aims to the future, that is certainly connected with our children, to whom we want to give our love, care, experience. Someone who has kids don’t even realize his gift. They take that like ordinary thing. However, there is someone who waits for his baby so a long and with such reverence… They do everything possible for that. And when it happens they will celebrate that event like the happiest day in their life. Those people, who get their baby in natural way, can’t get such unbelievable impressions. I think you are the one, who will get this marvelous feelings. Who will try another way to give birth a baby. And please , believe - things will get better!
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Post by ritia88 on Sept 23, 2017 14:12:44 GMT
Hi!
I really appreciate your effort to make me feel better!
Indeed, I badly wish a baby came in my life! It doesn't matter what the way it will be. I am ready to do everything to make my dream come true. Though not everything. I read about a woman who had adopted a girl kid. It turned out that it was so hard to adjust to each other. They were about to become the enemies. Only thanks to happy chance that didn't happen. Frankly saying, I wouldn't choose such a way of having a kid.
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Post by komys15 on Sept 25, 2017 18:11:37 GMT
Hi!
You know, what I have read here, encourages me to express my vision on this aspect of the life.
I was adopted in the age of 4 years old. And I wasn't happy at all. Moreover I was miserable. My new parents weren't able to understand me as a child. They wanted me to make a lot of things to achieve their dreams. Studying foreign languages, playing the piano, swimming, etc. They never took into consideration my dreams, desires, small whimsies. I think, when I have my own child, I will have been indulging him the whole time by giving him the whole my attention I was lacking. I suppose it is better to try giving birth your own baby. If it is impossible in natural way, then it is possible in artificial way.
It is better to have tried and failed than to have never tried at all.
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Post by davica45 on Sept 25, 2017 18:23:10 GMT
Hi everyone!
You have given me something to think about.
Life is so unpredictable!
I have a friend. We made friends since childhood. We haven’t got any secret between. You know, there are some prejudice among the people she live with. It has to do with blood relationship.
My friend wasn't able to give birth. However, she wanted to have her own baby. That’s why she had been seeking the ways until she found. Nowadays she bring up the wonderful boy kid together with husband. No one guess that they were birth thanks to surrogacy. Only I know that. My friend trust me. She left to go to another country. She passed through a few medical check-up. She had undergone the test that showed she had the genetic disease, which didn't let her give birth naturally. They were advised to use surrogacy. And they took that way.
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Post by ritia88 on Sept 25, 2017 19:03:30 GMT
Hi there!
Dear Davica! There is the point I would like to elaborate. You know I can't carry out a baby due to miscarriages as a result of my genetic disease. I think the surrogacy is the chance in my case. Are there some restrictions for using this method? What is the country that do all of these? I would appreciate if you told me.
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Post by davica45 on Sept 25, 2017 19:11:13 GMT
Hi dear!
I see you have made up your mind! That’s great! This clinic located in Ukraine. My friend said that the only restriction is that you need to be married. For you it is OK. You will be considered to be biological parents, and you will be specifically named as biological parents in the birth certificate without any mentioning of surrogate mother. Besides, we have talked a lot about this country, its people. My friend described it as the specifically beautiful place with friendly people. Moreover, she likes the attitude of people towards her problems. Ukrainians are so kind-hearted! Of course, you will be needed to pass through some experiences. However, I would say – All chance is hart at first, messy in the middle and gorgeous at the end!
When you hold such a long-expected child, this will be a truly gorgeous experience!
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Post by shweta118 on Oct 1, 2017 7:00:54 GMT
Hi dear. I can help you with some information regarding your problem as I am really feeling sorry for you.There are cases, however, in which a baby can be born with an abnormal number of chromosomes Aneuploidy can happen in any pregnancy, but the chances increase as a woman ages. Because many embryos with aneuploidy are miscarried, the chances of miscarriage also increase as a woman ages. Preimplantation genetic screening (PGS) in conjunction with in vitro fertilization (IVF) may help women with advanced maternal age or those who have experienced recurrent miscarriage increase their chances of having a successful pregnancy and healthy baby. New genetic testing techniques such as array CGH allow testing on all of the chromosomes for aneuploidy with results returned in time for an embryo transfer with no need for embryo freezing. PGS allows fertility doctors to transfer embryos with no detectable chromosome abnormalities to the mother's uterus. PGS for aneuploidy may be a consideration if the woman is age 35 or older, if the couple has had a previous pregnancy with a confirmed chromosomal abnormality, for couples who have had multiple early miscarriages and for couples who have had multiple unsuccessful IVF cycles. Couples with a history of three or more miscarriages should probably have their own chromosomes evaluated with a blood test to find the presence of inherited chromosome rearrangements. A balanced chromosome rearrangement does not affect your health, but it does increase the risk of having aneuploidy that can result in early miscarriage. With recent advances in genetic testing technology, researchers expect that there will be a great benefit for PGS used help achieve pregnancy success for older mothers and those who experience a recurrent miscarriage. For any pregnancy-related complications, you can consult with BioTexCom clinic in Ukraine as they are the best according to many.
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Post by mehwishhony on Oct 31, 2017 19:43:39 GMT
"Hi Rita, No shame in sharing your feelings with others, hon. Remember that we are not that different from each other, so how you are feeling, believe me, there are millions of others who are going through the same or have already past that experience. I am unable to give birth myself (uterus infection). I waited 6 years for the miracle to happen... name a clinic in the US that I haven't paid a visit to already. As I was about to give it all up, one of my childhood friends, a gynecologist now, made me aware of a clinic in Ukraine. Surrogacy is not something I did not already know, but the repute of BioTexCom (clinic's name) really made me pay a visit. Long story short, with the help of a great surrogate mother, I was able to realize my dream. I have a 5 years old boy who is sleeping right beside me as I type this  My advice - if you really want it, please consider going to BioTexCom. I hope you will be blessed with a baby too. Let me know if you need any further info about surrogacy or the clinic, I will be more than happy to help." |
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Post by emiliajoe on Feb 9, 2019 21:19:13 GMT
The most important thing you should do here is talking to your husband about all this. Try to tell him that being a stepmother is not the same as being a real one. And you want that. You can seek medical treatments for this. There are other ways to have a baby as well. I hope he agrees with you. Good luck with it.
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Post by samcol on Mar 31, 2019 10:49:55 GMT
You seem so demotivated and low, dear. I know that you're upset, but you can't give up like this. You have to stay strong and face this issue. Giving up is for losers, you have achieved so much in life. You can't be a loser. Your problem has many solutions, you just have to look upon them. Go visit a fertility expert. The doctor will help you by making you do some tests. He will then suggest you options which can get you your own child. I myself have infertility issues. I went for surrogacy in Ukraine and by the grace of God, I have 2 beautiful children today. It is a procedure through which your eggs and your husband's sperm are fertilized in a laboratory. That embryo is implanted in another woman's womb, who will be your surrogate. This way, the child will be genetically yours but will be delivered by the surrogate. I hope this helps you, dear. Lots of love!
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Post by hannah on Jun 3, 2019 0:05:00 GMT
Hey, I can understand that this is not the easiest thing to go through. However, dont lose hope. I would suggest that you visit a good RE! They will help you in the process. The technology in the field has increased. Therefore, just keep searching. Procedures like IVF and IUI may work for you.
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Post by monikaa on Aug 2, 2019 18:46:34 GMT
I can understand your situation. I would suggest that you look into assisted conception treatments for yourself. IVF or surrogacy in specific. You will obviously have to visit a good clinic for advice. The clinic I visited helped me decide. If you want I can send you the details. Good luck to you. Sending baby dust your way.
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Post by hannah on Oct 20, 2019 15:52:14 GMT
Hey, I hope things get better for you. I would suggest that you look into assisted conceptions. Treatments like IVF and surrogacy might work for you. However, the doctor will have to do a screening to determine if you are a candidate for one of these. Good luck to you. I can very much relate to you. I myself have opted for a clinic for surrogacy. It was the only option and the chance for me to have my own kids.
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Post by hannah on Nov 21, 2019 7:50:59 GMT
Good luck to you. I hope things work out. I would suggest that you visit the doctor. They will conduct some tests and help you out. It is your hormone levels that will answer the type of procedure that will work the best for you. I hope things go well. Just visit the right doctor. The more experienced the doctor the more are the chances of success.
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