Surrogacy or not?

Clinics in US are very expensive. After staying infertile for a long time I have started considering other options. My friends suggested me that I should opt for surrogacy. My sister got pregnant twice in a very short duration. But when it was my turn I was diagnosed infertile. Frustration caught me in but due to husband’s support I bravely faced everything. Meeting doctors visiting clinics was our daily routine. I lost hope to conceive but cannot do same for getting a kid from other legal means. I came to know about this clinic in Ukraine. I found their facilities and services reasonable as compared the one in US. Free accommodation, experienced doctors and staff. My other main concern was communication but managerial staff sounded very fluent in English. After initial consultation I now realize they are professional enough to handle surrogacy program. My husband was reluctant at first. After collecting enough information we are deciding to avail it as soon as possible. At this point we were gathering all the required documents.

Good morning Salina. Welcome here. You have come up to a very helpful platform and I hope that you will get a proper solution and an advice regarding your problem. I know it worries you a lot that you are not able to conceive a baby. Don’t feel yourself alone in this. There are many other women like you who are trying to cope with such situations. You are right that women with such problems feel in adequate and stressed at times but you know it is not the right way to get out of this situation. You need to be strong enough when dealing with such harsh situations. After my marriage when I also came to know that my fate has not been fare with me as I cannot become a mother. I was stressed when I felt that one of the best feelings a women can have is when she gives birth to her children and this blessing has been taken away from me. My husband has been really encouraging all the time. I am doing everything for him. I have been getting my treatment just for him as I had lost all hope in my life. But there has been no success up till now. I told this problem to my sister and after a few days she came up with an advice. My sister’s friend had the same problem but now she is mother of two children. Her friend told that it is all because of surrogacy. I met her friend and she told me all about this clinic in Ukraine. They give very reasonable packages for their patients and they provide some extra facilities as well. Her children are perfectly alright and there is no such distance between them. They have a perfect bond with their mother. So you don’t need to worry about such things and should give it a try. Take care. 

Hello dear. It’s a very beautiful feeling when you see people helping each other and you also try do the same. My perception about the forums has totally changed after reading your post. I always thought that people only do harsh comments on the post of the women who are seeking help and they go back to their stressful lives without getting any help here. So I decided that I shall take a positive step by sharing my experience and the possible solutions to the problems. I am really glad to see that you are also with me and want to help others. I wish that you soon have a healthy and beautiful baby. Just be strong as you are now and things will change for you. Because being strong in such harsh conditions bring always the positive outputs. Stay blessed. 

Hi dear. I'm sorry for your situation. You know, there are a lot of infertile women nowadays. Some of them give up and live alone, others find the solution. You know that surrogacy can help you become a mom. So, what are you waiting for? It is a great option for you. What are you afraid of? Sure, you will have to see some other woman being pregnant with your baby. But after the delivery you will take this baby home. You will have to care of him. So, you will have 9 months to prepare for your new life. Your life will change completely. You will have to take care of one more person in your family.
If you find a good reproduction center, you will have nothing to worry about. Your doctor will do everything for you. Just go through all the necessary examinations and wait for the embryo transfer. It will take a couple of months. After that you will receive a call from your representative. He will let you know if your surrogate is pregnant or not. If it was success, you will be allowed to visit your surrogate.
By the way, you will sign an agreement with the medical center. So, you and your future baby will be completely protected. The surrogate won't be able to keep the baby. Why would she do it if the baby is genetically related to you and your husband. This will be completely your baby.
This service is really very expensive in US. As girls already said, try to choose some clinic in Europe. Prices there are more affordable. And the medicine is at the highest level. Don't waste your time and start the surrogacy process.

surrogacy in Ukraine is well regulated, and surrogacy contracts are considered enforceable under legislation enacted at the Federal level. Under Ukrainian law, the child is considered to belong Intended Parents from the moment of conception. Once the baby is born, the birth certificate is issued with the names of the Intended Parents, and the Surrogate is not awarded any parental rights. As a result, the surrogate has no standing to keep the baby or claim any rights. This is true even if egg and sperm donors were used and there were no biological relation between the child and intended parents — their names remain on the birth certificate. In general, there is a much more comprehensive legal framework for surrogacy in Ukraine. Other European countries either prohibit surrogacy altogether, or they allow surrogacy agreements only the surrogate is unpaid. For those countries that allow surrogacy, the laws typically give all parental rights to the surrogate until a court process (a ‘Parental Order’ for example) can transfer the rights from her to the Intended Parents. In these countries the surrogate has the right to keep the baby if she chooses — but this is not the case with surrogacy in Ukraine.

Hello, Selina, I hope you are doing fine. It is amazing to know that you have stayed courageous for fourteen years. What has the doctor said about your disease? Have you asked your doctor about why it cannot be cured? If you are considering surrogacy then I also recommend it to you. I was also able to have my baby through surrogacy. It is not stressful at all, as you are allowed to meet your surrogate mother. You can even video call her so you will not face any kind of issues.