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Post by luckymom on Sept 3, 2017 18:10:26 GMT
I left my husband 3 years ago. We got married when I was 18. He wanted to have kids and I didn't want to. Now I know that I made a huge mistake. After that I met a great guy, he loved me so much, but he didn't want to have kids. I think it was like a carma joke for me. After we broke up I understood that it’s time to become a mother. How stupid I was(( And I’m ready to become a single parent. I definitely don't want to get married again. I'm strong and rich enough to support a kid.
I’ve read a lot about sperm donors and surrogacy. I’m 40 years old and I’m not sure I can carry a child. So, is there a chance that I still can have my biological baby?
I’m looking for someone who has already done this. I need your recommendations. What should I start from? Is there a chance that my eggs are still ok?
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Post by lolita on Sept 3, 2017 18:38:38 GMT
I'm so sorry about your situation. I understand that you were not ready to have a baby when you were married for the first time. And I absolutely agree that people should give birth to kids just when they are 100% ready. There are so many kids in the adoption centers which were left by the parents. I always wanted to take all these kids to my house. And I actually realized my dream. I have one adopted kid. And I love him so much.
Regarding surrogacy... We decided to give birth to one more kid and it will be born by the surrogate mother. Unfortunately I'm infertile. As far as I know you can easily use the donor sperm. If your eggs are ok, the baby will be genetically related to you. The surrogate mother will not be mentioned in the birth certificate.
So, you should go to your doctor to find out if they can use your eggs. Anyway, you can also use the donor eggs. In this way the baby will not be related to you. But I think it's not a problem if you still want to become a mother.
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Post by shweta118 on Sept 6, 2017 15:18:40 GMT
Hi dear. I know sometimes it can be a bit confusing that the process of surrogacy is good for me or not. I have faced the same problem & I was also confused that it will be good for me or not. But I can assure you the latest medical treatment is very good and gives a very high rate of success. I have a baby now and it is only possible for surrogacy. If you want to do surrogacy the best possible place is Ukraine. The doctors there are very professional and treat with any critical problem you are facing. They have research team who are working day and night to give us the best possible results. So don’t panic contact a good gynecologist and you will be fine. I am blessed with a baby boy and I hope you will get your desired result too. It is the greatest honor of a woman to be the mother of a healthy and bright child. So don’t worry everything will be fine.
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Post by silver on Sept 7, 2017 19:06:49 GMT
Hello! You definitely have a chance to become a parent. I think that every woman on the Earth is worth being a mother. You are only 40 years old. You have to do everything possible to fulfill your dream. Just don't give up.
Surrogacy was created for infertile couples. But if you are single you can easily use the donor sperm. This is so called Gestational surrogacy and donor sperm. With this method, the child born is genetically related to the intended mother and the surrogate mother has no genetic relation. You will be mentioned as a biological mother of this baby. Isn't that what you dreamed about?
I know this because I used to be a surrogate mother 3 years ago. I wanted to help one infertile couple. They have dreamed to become parents for 10 years! Can you imagine? Their doctor in medical center offered me to help them. I just couldn't say No.
The process of the surrogacy is quite simple. You choose the reproduction center. Then you have to go through a lot of examinations. If your eggs are ok, the doctors will choose the sperm donor and the surrogate for you. In case if your eggs are not ok, they will also offer you an egg donor. Unfortunately, in this case, the baby will not be related to you. But I believe that you are a lucky woman. Your eggs are definitely ok.
After you approve the sperm donor and the surrogate she will also have to pass a lot of tests. And then they will transfer the embryo. In 21 days you will find out if your surrogate is pregnant. If she is - congratulations! You are gonna be a happy mother.
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Post by smarty on Sept 7, 2017 20:13:55 GMT
Hello, dear. First of all, you have to go to your doctor. Your main task is to find out if your eggs are ok. If it is so - congratulations. You will just need the sperm donor and the surrogate mother to give birth to your baby. This is so called gestational surrogacy and donor sperm. The baby will be related to you. The surrogate mother will not be mentioned in the birth certificate.
Choose the medical center and start the surrogacy process. Go through all the examinations. If you approve the surrogate mother they will start the embryo transfer. It takes 21 days to find out if she is pregnant. After the pregnancy beginning the surrogate will be under the doctor's control. You can be sure that your baby will be born strong and healthy.
You definitely can become a mother without being married. The surrogacy is a perfect solution for you. I just wish you good luck! Don't give up.
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Post by priya on Sept 23, 2017 4:53:06 GMT
Hello! I am happy for you that you finally decided to have a baby.Having baby is one of the best feeling in the world. And about you chance to become pregnant by sperm donor depends upon the quality of your egg. So first of all i suggest you to visit doctor to check the quality of your egg. Then after you can go for surrogacy.
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Post by luckymom on Nov 28, 2017 18:57:42 GMT
Girls, thank you for your support. I was thinking a lot and I already entered the program. The hardest task was to choose the reproduction center. They all looked pretty good. The only difference I noticed was the price and waiting time. I didn’t want to wait for a long time. That’s why I have chosen the most expensive package at one of European clinics. They offered me the best package at the lowest price. I signed an agreement two months ago. Two weeks ago the embryo was transferred. If I’m not mistaken, in 1 week I will find out the result.
By the way, I don’t know why it happened to me, but I met a great guy. We have been dating for 2 months. He knows about my surrogacy program and he is supporting me. I don’t know what will happen in the future, but I am very happy now. I am an independent woman and I can do whatever I want. In case if this man is The One, I will let him to take care of my kid and me. But, who knows. We’ll see. Anyway, I will never be alone. I will have my baby. I am so happy, girls.
A couple of years ago I was so desperate. I couldn’t even imagine that my life will change that much. Now I know that everything is possible. Even if you are single you have a chance to have kids. Modern world offers so many opportunities. We have to use every single chance to make our dreams come true.
I hope my story would inspire every infertile woman. Don’t give up, girls. Your life will change soon.
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Post by katy2017 on Nov 28, 2017 23:04:47 GMT
I'm so glad that you decided to enter the surrogacy program. I know that it works because my sister's daughter was born with the help of surrogacy. There's nothing to be afraid of. Everything will be fine. If you have chosen a good medical center, they will do everything for you. The price is pretty high that's why the level of service is also high. Nowadays a lot of couples use surrogacy to become parents. As for me it is very good. Not every couple accepts the idea of adoption. Surrogacy gives them a chance to get their biological baby.
Everything is possible - it's true. I'm glad that you are thinking so positive. We definitely need more positive posts on the web. I wish you good luck with your surrogacy program. Let us know how are you doing.
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Post by celistacarter on Dec 3, 2017 6:30:11 GMT
Hi, I am sorry that you are in such a situation. It is really s mess. Having your own children is the best feeling in the world. It helps you a lot. It makes you confident. Being a woman I can understand how you feel. I also had some complications. But it is the best feeling in the world. Yes, surrogacy is gaining trend these days. Many couples go for it every year. It is a successful procedure though. For a startup, you should visit a fertility clinic. Maybe I can recommend you one. They will take a good care of your situation. They have millions of donors. You can easily go through this. I myself went to that clinic for medication. I hope things will work out for you. Due to your advancing age don't lose hope. You will get what you desire. Keep updating! Maybe visiting the website can help. mother-surrogate.info/ |
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Post by julliet589 on Dec 3, 2017 11:16:31 GMT
Hi there. I'm sorry to hear about your troubles. Don't be so hard on yourself. We all make decisions we might regret later. That is just a part of life. What you need to focus on is how to get what you want. At 40 it isn't impossible to carry your own child. However, it can get a little difficult. First, consult a doctor. Ask them if you are fit to carry a child. If not, then you can proceed with surrogacy. I have heard good things about a clinic that specializes in surrogacy. Unfortunately, I don't have any experience with them. So, I can't really vouch for them. However I have read some good reviews of the clinic on forums like these. I am sure you can find the information you need on their website: mother-surrogate.info/ . |
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Post by myraward on Feb 5, 2019 6:10:59 GMT
Hi there! I hope you are doing well. I am so sorry for your loss. I think you should go for Surrogacy. At this age, there will be a lot of complications. Good luck!
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Post by emiliajoe on Feb 5, 2019 16:18:57 GMT
Hello. How are you doing? Sorry to hear about that. Single parenting is hard. But loneliness is worse. Have you considered reconciling with your ex-husband? I hope whatever the problems are between you two get solved. As far as surrogacy is concerned, you can totally consider it for yourself.
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Post by emiliajoe on Feb 5, 2019 16:21:25 GMT
Only a doctor can tell you if you can use your eggs at this age or not. Generally, it is not preferred. There are more chances of defected pregnancy with eggs of someone your age. But everyone ages differently. So I'd suggest you take a professional's advice on this. I hope you figure out what to do soon. Good luck.
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Post by feliciapayton on Feb 9, 2019 12:51:14 GMT
Hey there! I hope you are feeling better now. In Surrogacy, Age doesn't matter. Because you are not the one who will carry the baby. The baby can be your biological if you use your eggs. I hope this helps you. Good luck.
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Post by monikaa on Aug 7, 2019 1:16:36 GMT
If you think you are ready then I think you should opt for it. Surrogacy is a great option to go forward with. Especially when it is the only hope you have. Good luck to you. Just make sure to visit the right doctor for your process. For surrogacy, a good clinic really matters. I myself am in the middle of the surrogacy process. Therefore, if you need information regarding a clinic I can for sure help you.
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